We’ve all been there. After hearing the phone buzz after that risky text; after being told the results for the exam you didn’t feel great about have been released; after lifting the cup from over a cockroach you think you trapped, there’s a fear of finding out what the outcome is. Our minds have a tendency to perseverate on the worst possible outcome (or at least mine does), regardless of the true likelihood of that outcome. And as they say ignorance is bliss.

I feel like I used to be really good at combatting that fear; at telling myself and believing that knowing is better than living in that dark, but as I’ve become less confident in myself I’ve found that fear starting to win more battles (even though in most cases I end of needing to confront reality at some point, and usually it being fine). I’ve been slipping. I want to go back to that mindset, and part of that involves taking back control of my competence and identity.

I came across this term, FOFO somewhere but I can’t remember where so I apologize to whoever inspired this thought, and thank you, and I definitely do not take credit for coming up with it.


4 thoughts on “FOFO”

  1. I relate to this so much. For me, it wasn’t so much believing that knowing was better than living in the dark, but rather I wouldn’t look or confront the outcome until I had reached an inner peace where I didn’t care what the result was. However, I always made sure to reach that peace before looking, and now I feel a total loss of control as I walk through life and let things either crush or validate me. It goes back to what you says about competence and identity. When I feel more myself, I don’t care about said outcomes at all. There’s a great sense of security in it.

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    1. Thanks for sharing! What you said about being crushed or validated is so true. At the same time, for me, it’s almost like the things that “crush” me are in a way validating an identity that I historically seldom identified with or that I don’t want for myself (is this denial? self-fulfilling also seems like a relevant term here too).


  2. Re “And as they say ignorance is bliss.”

    Ignorance of lies and deceptions (=most mainstream news and establishment decrees) is bliss because exposing yourself to that is self-propagandization.

    Ignorance of truths is not, or only temporarily or rarely, bliss because it is ultimately self-defeating.

    The FALSE mantra of “ignorance is bliss”, promoted in the latter sense, is a product of a fake sick culture that has indoctrinated its “dumbed down” (therefore TRULY ignorant, therefore easy to control) people with many such manipulative slogans.

    You can find the proof that ignorance is hardly ever bliss (and if so only superficial temporary fake bliss), and how you get to buy into this lie (and other self-defeating lies), in the article “The 2 Married Pink Elephants In The Historical Room –The Holocaustal Covid-19 Coronavirus Madness: A Sociological Perspective & Historical Assessment Of The Covid “Phenomenon”” ….

    ““We’re all in this together” is a tribal maxim. Even there, it’s a con, because the tribal leaders use it to enforce loyalty and submission. … The unity of compliance.” — Jon Rappoport, Investigative Journalist

    “2 weeks to flatten the curve has turned into…3 shots to feed your family!” — Unknown

    “If ‘ignorance is bliss’ –there should be more happy people.” — Unknown


    1. I appreciate your thoughtful comment, and I agree it’s self-defeating and that is the point I was trying to highlight. But also just because it is self-defeating doesn’t mean people don’t find comfort in ignoring reality when it suits them (though something tells me we are coming at this from different directions).


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