This is somewhat of an appendix to yesterday’s post, specifically the idea of it being better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
My friend Aaron once asked (from a book of questions) if I’d rather live a turbulent life, with really low lows, but really high highs, or a static life, where I was moderately happy all the time. At the time I opted for the static one, thinking it to be the safer and more practical of the two. Looking back I definitely would change my answer, and to be honest, I have no idea what possessed me to choose static in the first place.
Of course it’s all hypothetical, and one probably could make a compelling argument for either case, but I’m at a point in my life where I think all situations good or bad, are ultimately good, or rather can lead to good. The lows helps us avoid complacency, and helps us better appreciate the good. The lows allow us to learn and to grow. Without lows we’d all just a bunch of dumb rocks, but at least rocks have no capacity for intelligence so wouldn’t be expected to be anything else. Actually, one could argue that makes them perfect. In fact, yes! We should all aspire to, like rocks and vegetables, achieve our own individual potentials, and the only way to do that is to fuel our potential-chariot with the coals of our failure and sadness.
….sorry that got a little out of hand….
But relationships and love to play a big part in that. There is always something to be learned from a relationship regardless of the outcome, and with the right mindset, loving recklessly and unapologetically can only increase your capacity to love and be loved.